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Anger Management

Our therapists at The Acorn Counselling & Psychotherapy Centre are professionally trained to deal with a wide and varied range of problems, including Anger management.

Do You Need Anger Management Counselling?

Most people can use their anger in appropriate ways in some situations, and yet be very inappropriate in others.

If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better.

Just like happiness and sadness, anger is a natural emotion that every human and many non-human animals experience. Mild forms of human anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to frustration, criticism or a threat, we may become angry – and usually this is a healthy response.

Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Uncontrolled or chronic anger can be costly both emotionally and physically.

Anger is not just a mental state of mind.  Anger has survival benifits, and forms part of our “fight or flight” brain response  to a percieved threat or harm. The raised heart rate, blood pressure, and release of hormones prepare us physically for remedial action – which is either to fight or run away at top speed (fight or flight).

When a human or animal decides to take action to stop or confront a threat, anger usually becomes the predominant feeling and takes over our behavior. When you’re angry, you can choose to express or suppress the emotion. Here’s the difference:

  • Expression. This is the act of conveying your anger. Expression ranges from a reasonable, rational discussion to a violent outburst.
  • Suppression. This is an attempt to hold in or ignore your anger. It also includes passive-aggressive responses — in which you don’t express your anger constructively but instead scheme to get your own back by using the silent treatment, storming off, taking your anger out on somebody else, road rage, to mention but a few.

Ideally, you’ll choose constructive expression — stating your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

What can you do if you’re confronted by someone whose anger is out of control? Usually, the most rational thing to do is to walk away. If you stay, the situation may escalate into violence. If leaving the situation is difficult or impossible, take reasonable precautions to protect yourself. Don’t engage the other person in a manner that’s likely to increase the angry behavior.

Some research suggests that inappropriately expressing anger — such as keeping anger pent up, seething with rage or having violent outbursts — can be harmful to your health.

Such responses might aggravate chronic pain or lead to sleep difficulties or digestive problems. There’s even some evidence that stress and hostility related to anger can lead to heart disease, stroke and even cancer.

Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret, hurts those around you or is taking a toll on your personal relationships.

Our therapists at Acorn Counselling & Psychotherapy Centre provide a safe confidential setting where you can:

  • Learn what anger is
  • Identify what triggers your anger
  • Recognise signs that you’re becoming angry
  • Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
  • Explore underlying feelings, such as fear,sadness or depression.

 

Examining the underlying causes of anger can be an excellent foundation to building a new, healthier way of living, and in the process  build self-esteem and self respect.